No amount of bargaining will bring your spouse back to life. This type of delusional thinking will eventually make way for the reality of the finality of their death. It may take you several weeks to several months to realize that your sorrow has turned into a profound and chronic sadness that never lifts. Grief-related sadness will come and go. One moment you may feel as if you no longer have the will to live without your spouse, and the very next moment, something may come along to cheer you up for a while.
Feeling this way is a normal part of the grief process and is not typically a cause for great concern. The acceptance stage is usually the final stage of your grief journey. This stage lasts for the rest of your life. Although there is no set timeline for grieving through each of the above stages, you can expect grief to last from several weeks to several years. You may experience some of all of these stages or none of them at all. The standard grieving period can last anywhere from six to twelve months for it to cycle through.
This applies to most cases of ordinary grief, with no additional complications coming into play. Things such as your relationship to the deceased, your past experiences, and any unresolved traumas may cause your grief to extend far beyond this initial period. When grief is prolonged and left untreated, it has the potential to turn into complicated grief. What does it mean to suffer from complicated grief? Things that complicate grief can include past physical, emotional, or psychological abuse never healed before the person responsible for it died.
Not being able to confront or otherwise gain closure to this type of trauma can complicate how you grieve and how long your grief lasts.
You can expect your grief to transform into something entirely different from what you experienced initially as the healing process begins to take shape. While most people start to feel better at the month mark, they may still experience the effects of their loss, such as profound pain and sorrow. They may also still feel other grief-related symptoms such as loneliness, depression, and brain fog. The one-year mark tends to be an indication of the progression of grief where most people can expect to start feeling better.
After one year, a bereaved person may find that they're ready to begin the next chapter of their life or reinvent themselves entirely. Most people reconnect with their friends and family once they start to feel better, another indicator that their grief is lifting.
Different types of grief affect people differently. The result is the same, but what leads to death is completely different. There is no comparison to what others are going through. You can do certain things to help you along, or you can allow the natural process to take place. Eventually, your suffering will begin to lessen. The stages are:. Every stage takes a different amount of time for different people. There are guidelines for how long you should expect these to take. But there are no hard and fast rules that state an exact amount of days.
For some people, death has no overwhelming impact on them. Their spiritual beliefs, religion, or faith may guide them to believe that death is not a time to be sad or bereaved. For others, it can be the most devastating news they can ever get.
You can expect your grief to last anywhere from six months to several years. You will start to feel better within weeks. As you progress through each stage, you'll find yourself feeling better and better.
One day you might feel fine and able to function. The next, you might find it difficult to get out of bed. You should expect this ebb and flow of emotions to take place for several months to a year. You might bounce between grieving and not grieving through every stage of the grief model. Try not to give too much attention to it. Allow the process to take its natural course. Don't try and rush through it. The stages of grief will give way to mourning.
Grief is the pain and sorrow that you feel when you experience loss. Mourning is the outward manifestation of that grief. When grief turns to mourning, there are additional things to look out for.
When you seek professional counseling, your therapist will likely check for the completion of the four tasks of mourning. As you become familiar with these tasks, you'll begin to recognize your progress.
Healing takes place on its own time. But the surest way of slowing it down is not getting the help you need. When coping with your grief becomes unbearable, consider getting outside help.
To effectively work through your grief, consider the following:. This time may be the time for self-reflection too. Start journaling. Try keeping track of the things you need to get done and slowly start accomplishing that list.
You will be feeling proficient once you start getting small tasks checked off of your list. You will begin to learn a new normal for yourself. Beginning to adjust to a new lifestyle will help with your grief. The weeks and months will continue to go by, and typically, your grief will start to lessen as you live from day to day. Keep in mind; this is different for everybody.
No two people will suffer through grief the same. You may compare yourself with similar versions of what other people have suffered. You may still be working through your grief and asking the same questions; Why? With time, the sharp edges of your grief will soften. I have had families tell me that it is like a shadow that follows them. Not always visible or always felt, but still there. The memories that used to haunt you may now bring you comfort.
The things that used to make you cry may make you smile and fill your heart with remembered joy. But it does soften the blow. As the years go by, the sharpness of the pain will soften. The sorrow and anger and regret will give way to treasured memories and a deep but gentle longing mixed with heartache and love. Experts have different thoughts on grief and timelines. But most agree that mourning for a spouse can last for three years and longer.
Be compassionate with yourself. Follow your own itinerary. Ask anyone who has lost a child, and they will tell you that the heartache never goes away. This loss may be the worse loss a human can go through.
Losing a child is considered the single worst stressor a person can experience. The grieving process parents struggle with is longer than any other grief. You may have classic symptoms of a heart attack. If you feel these warning signs, get to an ER immediately.
The first year after the death of a child, a parent is at greater risk for suicide. If you have felt the urge to harm yourself, please call this phone number 24 hours a day: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline Help is just a phone call away.
People will suffer bereavement after a miscarriage. As a woman, we feel an immediate bonding with the life we are carrying. Pregnancy hormones make us run a gambit of emotions at the best of times.
It is essential to take care of your physical and emotional health at this time. Your body will eventually heal from the trauma; it may take your heart much longer. Some doctors will tell you the best solution is to become pregnant again. Follow the advice that is best for you. The loss of a parent affects us in a multitude of ways, regardless of age. Grieving a parent is different than any of the other types of grief you may feel. Parents always have a formative effect on their children, and the loss will be acutely felt.
This grief may last according to circumstances surrounding your relationship with your parent. Most people say their grief lasts from six months to a year to become adapted to the change. Perhaps a few years to get back to the way things were before the death. A pet can quickly become part of the family.
They love us, unconditionally. The acute grief you feel at this loss is normal and natural. You may feel the same grief for a pet that you do for a person.
You can expect to go through guilt, anger, denial, and even depression. It is your right to feel your grief and to work through it. Pet grief experts warn against this impulse.
They advise working through your grief before trying to build a new relationship with another pet. Treat this as a real, genuine loss. Hold a pet funeral , find ways to memorialize your pet , write down your feelings in a journal , and take care of yourself. You are beginning a new life. Change can be scary, but it can be a terrific renewal too.
Life is always changing, and growth can be healthy. Before making any significant decisions, changing jobs, selling your house, or moving to a new state , allow yourself some healing time.
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